If things haven’t been working out for you in your attempt to step into parenthood with your partner, I completely understand.
You see, it was like this for me as well after my son was born in 2014.
Thinking that it would be simple and things would remain the same between my husband and myself, I dove right in to being a mom on top of a wife and therapist.
But after almost a year of spinning my wheels, I was left feeling jaded, exhausted, and I didn’t see how I could ever have a relationship with him like we had before our baby entered our lives.
Let me tell you why 92% of partnered parents experience increased conflict in their relationship after their baby is born and 67% of couples become unhappy in their relationship with each other within the first three years of their baby's life (even if they still love each other!):
First, you might think you are, but you really aren't prepared for all the changes that happen when you bring your baby home.
Second, you might have learned about relationships from unhealthy sources and are perpetuating these patterns in your own Partnerhood.
Third, you likely aren't paying attention to your self-care or relationship-care since you have a child who needs so much of your attention right now.
It is really not your fault, so do not worry. It’s just the way things are... because of these reasons, many couples have issues trying to maintain a connected relationship after the birth of their baby.
Let’s work together and change things, my friend.
You need someone to guide you and show you and your partner the correct way forward.
I volunteer (if you don’t mind, of course)! I have navigated all of these obstacles both personally and with tons of other couples, and know what’s right and what’s wrong.
Stay tuned for my next post, where I will go through five basic strategies to help you create a Partnerhood that will thrive.
If you want to check out my full course, you can always go here.
Christie Sears Thompson
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
The Partnerhood (www.thepartnerhood.com)
Trade Winds Therapy & Relationship Coaching (www.tradewindstherapy.com)