If you follow me on social media, I occasionally like to share dad jokes that make me laugh. Recently, I came across this one that I thought I would share with you in case you missed it:
This one really got me because not only is it a therapist joke, but there's also a few important lessons within it, which actually have elements of truth to them...
Lesson #1: Don't always assume you know
Rather than assuming you know what another person (especially your partner) meant, be curious about what they intended. If you aren't sure, ask. It's always safer to be curious than assuming. Step into wondering instead of knowing.
Lesson #2: People typically have different perspectives
We all have mental and emotional filters that help us make meaning of the information we receive. These invisible filters create our own unique perspectives. Even in the same situation where two people are present, they both may have different perspectives (this is a big reason eye-witness accounts aren't incredibly reliable).
Lesson #3: Different perspectives can cause conflict
If you and another person have different perspectives, it is possible to begin an argument about "who is right" and compete to win. It is also possible to spiral out of control and create a dysfunctional pattern between you that can cause disconnection in the relationship. (Hence why this fictional couple ended up in a therapist's office!)
I hope that you had a good chuckle like I did!
P.S. If the joke was not funny to you, I’m sorry. I’ll try again!
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Christie Sears Thompson
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