I don't know about you but I can't believe August is just around the corner! This summer has gone by really fast for me.
Today, I wanted to address something that I hope will help you and your partner connect on a level much more intimately and vulnerably than you usually do.
Oh and I should probably add a NSFW disclaimer on here just in case. ;-)
Whenever you engage sexually together, are you really connected? Do you communicate either verbally or nonverbally while you are being intimate?
If not, I strongly encourage you to!
Communication and connection go hand in hand when it comes to sex. Being intimate with your partner can be one of the most connecting activities you do together, but if you aren't communicating well, you're possibly leaving some untapped connection out there.
To help you connect more fully starting right away, I'm giving you some pointers along with a free guide that will get you on track to a more satisfying path.
1) You are the expert of your body
Only YOU know where and how exactly you like to be touched. Direct your partner using your words (and hands!) to receive a more pleasurable experience.
2) Focus on what you want, instead of what you don't
Say things like, "move lower", "like this", or "softer" to guide your partner clearly. If you say something like, "not like that", it leaves your directions up for interpretation and possible disappointment or frustration.
3) Foreplay starts in your head
Our imaginations are an incredibly powerful part of our mind. Rev up your engine by warming up your imagination and play out what you might like to do with your partner before you even engage in physical touch. Let your mind run free!
4) Nonverbals are just as important
Remember that more communication actually occurs nonverbally than verbally. Your engagement through body language, facial expressions, tone and volume of your voice, and other nonverbal cues speak very loudly about your desires.
Don't forget to grab the PDF download for the quick guide to get you started!
If you are interested in learning more about connecting fully with your partner, increasing your relationship satisfaction, and creating a Partnerhood to be proud of, please consider purchasing the complete online program here:
Christie Sears Thompson
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
The Partnerhood (www.thepartnerhood.com)
Trade Winds Therapy & Relationship Coaching (www.tradewindstherapy.com)